Frequently Asked Questions

HOW MUCH WILL THE SUGGESTED WEEKLY DATES COST?

The weekly date plans are budget-friendly. They are structured so 3 out of 4 of the dates can be done at minimal cost or free, and only one date per month will cost $30-$50. We know money can be tight, and is the number one reason for divorce, so modify them if $30 per month is a financial strain.

WHO DESIGNS THE DATES AND MARRIAGE CHALLENGES?

The dates and challenges are put together by a group of married people in varying professions, in diverse stages of life, representing differing personalities to develop a well-rounded plan for you. At times, there will be two dates in one week to choose from to fulfill our adventure-seeking subscribers and also those wanting a more laid-back date.

WHAT ARE YOUR BABYSITTING IDEAS?

What should I do with my kids? Spending time with your spouse, uninterrupted, is essential to reconnect. We recommend setting time aside each week to make your marriage priority.

Some options for babysitting:

Have grandma and grandpa watch the kids. This is beneficial for both the kids and the grandparents. Studies have shown that kids with grandparents actively involved in their lives are more emotionally stable, and have fewer negative behaviors, than kids without involved grandparents.

If the grandparents do not live close by, and a babysitter is not in the budget, trade babysitting with close friends. For example, watch their kids on Tuesdays and they watch yours on Thursdays.

If you can’t find one night a week that you’re not running kids to activities, have the grandparent/sitter run them to those activities that one day.

Another way to work this out is to develop a babysitting co-op.  For example, find 4 families that want to participate.  One family watches the kids of all 4 families one night a month, then rotate.  This gives you 3 weeks a month to date, and one week a month to babysit.  (Hint: when watching a lot of kids at once, it is more manageable when there are planned games and activities for the kids.)

If you don’t invest in your marriage while the kids are young, when your nest is empty, your marriage will be also.


WHEN IS OUTSIDE HELP NEEDED?

Although your marriage will be enriched if this full program is put into practice, it is not a substitute for marriage counseling.

How to know when you need outside help…

  • ​If there is abuse, or threats of abuse.
  • If one, or both, spouses have an addiction to drugs, alcohol, gambling or pornography.
  • ​If there are sexual problems.
  • If one is dealing with anger, depression, anxiety, any chemical imbalance or a psychological disorder.
  • If there has been an extramarital affair.
  • ​If one has withdrawn from communication, sex, or affection.
  • If any activity suggested by Marriage In Abundance causes friction or an emotional trigger, then skip it, or seek outside help.

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